Kissing before marriage is not a sin. Some Christians avoid it because kissing can catalyze feelings of lust and temptation. Avoiding kissing is not a standard set by the Bible. It is just a way of maintaining sexual purity until marriage.
Kissing in itself is not a sin, according to the Bible. Lust of the body and mind is a sin.
Some of the most frequently asked questions and answers about kissing are:
Is Kissing Inherently Evil?
Kissing is not inherently a sin, There are certain types of kissing that are just inappropriate considering the relationship between the kissers. Some kisses are displays of romantic passion and shouldn’t be shared with just a friend or a family member.
Some Christians choose to avoid kissing until they are married because of the deep intimacy and temptation that may result from the act.
What Does the Bible Say About Kissing?
The Bible as a book is not prudish in matters concerning sex, love, and romance. Case studies for this assertion may be found in the Songs of Solomon, a book that contains some very graphic depictions of intimate acts. The Bible only sets rules that limit some of such acts to married people because that is how God ordained them.
There are several positive descriptions of kissing in the Bible. The Bible talks about how people greeted each other with kisses. However, these kisses should be qualified. They were kisses to the cheeks.
The Apostle Paul encouraged the brethren to “greet one another with a holy kiss”. Bible and history scholars believe that “holy kiss” refers to a kiss on the cheek.
Romans 16:16, NKJV
Does the Bible Instruct People to Only Kiss Romantically in Marriage?
The Bible does not explicitly instruct people not to kiss unless they are married. It is not necessarily a sin if a Christian couple who are courting each other with the aim of marriage engage in the act. Sharing just a kiss that does not lead to other acts that are explicitly forbidden for Christians is not a sin.
These are the reasons why some Christians feel that the best way to maintain sexual purity until marriage is to avoid situations and actions that may make them vulnerable to temptations.
Why Do Some Couples Prefer to Avoid Kissing Until They Are Married?
Some couples believe that it is wise to avoid kissing until marriage. They have a variety of reasons for not doing this and it’s not because kissing is strictly forbidden for Christian couples.
It is believed by some Christians that long periods of kissing are no way to build a God-fearing relationship. For some of them, this unnecessary intimacy is one of the reasons why a lot of marriages don’t last long.
For others, it is the fact that they are not sure that they will end up married that stops them. The common reasoning behind this set is “Why do you have to do this with someone you may not marry?”. In their hearts, they feel that only a person’s future spouse has a claim to such romantic kisses.
Many Christians actually avoid the act because they believe that passionate kissing may lead to other actions that are displeasing to God. There are strictly laid out rules for Christians to follow in holiness. Passionate kissing may make you break some of those rules.
“For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you”
Mark 7:21-23, NLT
This passage from the Bible signifies how a lot of sinful things can spring up from the heart. Kissing may make the mind go to places they would not go normally.
Paul admonished Christians to “flee from every form of sexual immorality”. This may be the reason why some Christians don’t kiss until marriage. Kissing may awake passionate feelings of lust and sexual desires in you, hence the need for some Christians to avoid it until marriage
1 Corinthians 6:18, NIV
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To Kiss or Not to Kiss?
You have heard so many things about kissing. Now that you know it is not a sin, but it may cause other actions and temptations, you want to know if you can still go ahead and kiss someone you are dating.
This is a decision that you are best equipped to make yourself. How do you feel about it? Does your conscience still judge you every time you do it? If this is true for you, you should probably avoid kissing. Do you feel you can resist the temptation to do more than a kiss? Then you can.
The most important thing is that while making this decision, you set your priorities right. As a Christian, you must do what is right for you and most honoring to God.
” everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial”. This should galvanize you into spending time in prayer and deep contemplation. Realizing that the fact that an action is permissible doesn’t make it constructive will help you make your decision.
1 Corinthians 10:23, BLB
How Do I Avoid Kissing Until Marriage?
If you fall into the class of those Christians that want to wait until marriage before kissing, you must be ready to create a boundary. Set boundaries. This will help you maintain your standards regardless of who you are dating.
To further help you along this path, it is important that you date only people who share your point of view. This will help you avoid temptations and awkward situations.
Conclusion
Among young Christians, there are so many questions surrounding this subject. Kissing is the intimate act of showing physical affection to your family and friends. An action that involves locking of lips and deeply exploring another person’s lips and tongues, it has raised several controversies and dark clouds along Christian youths. Like many issues in life, there are no straight answers. However, a study of the Bible will help answer a few of those questions.
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